Pls fwd this to Parents who care to read this! Guide for effective parenting

*Tirukkural was written by Tiruvalluvar (a Tamil poet/writer) more than 5,000 yrs ago. It’s one of the ancient sciences on Human Behaviour, which has not changed in spite of modern education & technology!*

SOME GOLDEN THOUGHTS OF THIRUKKURAL:*

1. *If your children lie to you often, it is because you over-react too harshly to their inappropriate behaviour.*

2. *If your children are not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you’ve lost them.*

3. *If your children had poor self-esteem, it is because you advice them more than you encourage them.*

4. *If your children do not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined them regularly in public.*

5. *If your children take things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you don’t let them chose what they want.*

6. *If your children are cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly.*

7. *If your children do not respect other people’s feelings, it is because instead of speaking, you order & command them.*

8. *If your children are too quick to anger, it is because you give too much attention to misbehaviour & you give little attention to good behaviour.*

9. *If your children are excessively jealous, it is because you congratulate them only when they successfully complete something & not when they improve at something even if they don’t successfully complete it*

10. *If your children intentionally disturb you, it is because you are not physically affectionate enough.*

11. *If your children are openly defiant, it is because you openly threaten to do something but don’t follow through.*

12. *If your child is secretive, it is because they are sure that you would blow things out of proportion.*

13. *If your children back-answer to you, it is because they watch you do it to others & think its normal behaviour.*

14. *If your children don’t listen to you but listen to others, it is because you are too quick to jump to conclusions*

15. *If your children rebel it is because they know you care more about what others think than what is right*

Pls fwd this to Parents who care to read this! Guide for effective parenting

Ten Things a Hindu Can Do While Using English Language: – written by Francois Gautier (check his Facebook page. He knows more Hinduism than many of us)

Ten Things a Hindu Can Do While Using English Language: – written by Francois Gautier (check his Facebook page. He knows more Hinduism than many of us)

1. Please stop using the term “God fearing” – Hindus never ever fear God. For us, God is everywhere and we are also integral part of God. God is not a separate entity to fear.

2. Please do not use the meaningless term “RIP” when someone dies. Use “Om Shanti”, “Sadgati” or “I wish this atma attains moksha/sadgati /uttama lokas”. Hinduism neither has the concept of “soul” nor its “resting”. The terms “Atma” and “Jeeva” are, in a way, antonyms for the word “soul”.(to be understood in detail)

3. Please don’t use the word “Mythology” for our historic epics (Itihas) Ramayana and Mahabharata. Rama and Krishna are historical heroes, not just mythical characters.

3. Please don’t be apologetic about idol worship and say “Oh, that’s just symbolic”. All religions have idolatry in kinds or forms – cross, words, letters (calligraphy) or direction. Also let’s stop using the words the words ‘idols’, ‘statues’ or ‘images’ when we refer to the sculptures of our Gods. Use the terms ‘Moorthi’ or ‘Vigraha’. If words like Karma, Yoga, Guru and Mantra can be in the mainstream, why not Moorthi or Vigraha?

4. Please don’t refer to Ganesh and Hanuman as “Elephant god” and “Monkey god” respectively. You can simply write Shree Ganesh and Shree Hanuman.

5. Please don’t refer to our temples as prayer halls. Temples are “devalaya” (abode of god) and not “prathanalaya” (Prayer halls).

6. Please don’t wish your children “black birthday” by allowing them to blow off the candles that are kept on top of the birthday cake. Don’t throw spit on the divine fire (Agni Deva). Instead, ask them to pray: “Oh divine fire, lead me from darkness to light” (Thamasoma Jyotirgamaya) by lighting a lamp. These are all strong images that go deep into the psyche.

7. Please avoid using the words “spirituality” and “materialistic”. For a Hindu, everything is divine. The words spirituality and materialism came to India through evangelists and Europeans who had a concept of Church vs State. Or Science vs Religion. On the contrary, in India, Sages were scientists and the foundation stone of Sanatan Dharma was Science.

9. Please don’t use the word “Sin” instead of “Paapa”. We only have Dharma (duty, righteousness, responsibility and privilege) and Adharma (when dharma is not followed). Dharma has nothing to do with social or religious morality. ‘Papa’ derives from Adharma.

10. Please don’t use loose translation like meditation for “dhyana” and ‘breathing exercise’ for “Pranayama”. It conveys wrong meanings. Use the original words.

Remember, the world respects only those who respect themselves!
*Please circulate so that people can understand about their Hindu Dharma….*

5 FACTORS OF TAKING CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE

5 FACTORS OF TAKING CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE

*1) Understand that no experience comes labeled. You are the labeler.*

The power to choose is yours! As William Shakespeare said, “Nothing is good or bad but thinking makes it so”. You and only you are the labeler of your experiences.

Do you complain that roses have thorns or do you rejoice that thorns have roses? You have the ability to choose your reactions.

All too often, these decisions to label are not done consciously and your internal dialog will slap on a negative label. You must be aware of this and change it immediately. Realizing your ability to label is an awesome power and a great step towards success. Upon taking control, you can select empowering labels in place of the negative ones. You are in control of the experience.

*2) Avoid blaming yourself for making mistakes.*

The road to success is always under construction. Every morning we awake to a day we have never seen or experienced. Mistakes will be made and obstacles will appear. You have no control over these events but you do control your reaction to them.

It is important that we forgive ourselves for making mistakes. We need to learn from our errors and move on. It is when we hurt that we learn. The power to choose how much we learn is ours. Do you see a stumbling block or a stepping-stone? You decide.

*3) Understand that like energies attract.*

Like attracts like. Positive thoughts produce positive results. If you surround yourself in positive emotions, energies, thoughts, and people then positive events will be the end result. Unfortunately, the same is true if you surround yourself in negative energies.

Do you know someone that is always negative and melancholy? Notice that bad luck seems to continuously follow them. They may say that a rain cloud is right above his or her head. Well, they’re right. And as soon as they realize that it is they who create that rain cloud they can chose to make it disappear.

What you plant, so shall you harvest. If you plant rose seeds you get roses right? Plant seeds of happiness, hope, success, and love; it will all come back to you in abundance. This is the law of nature.

*4) Determine what you want and act on it.*

Imagine an archer that did not have a target to shoot his arrow at. He would fire his arrows aimlessly and would not be successful.

Have a goal, write it down, and act upon that goal. Now that there is a clear target you can have a plan of action. A visible target it easier to hit.

Nobody ever sat his or her way to success. It takes hard work, motivation, a positive attitude and a strong belief that you can do it. That combination produces what we call luck. Do not sit back and wait for life to happen to you. Have a plan and take the needed steps to create what you want.

*5) Choose to feel happy.*

It has been said “Act as if and you will become.” Try it. It really works. Put your chin up, smile, and think positive thoughts. Remember the happy times and notice all you have to be grateful for and you will feel lighter, happier and more empowered.

If you frown, groan, grumble, and focus on everything wrong in the world you will feel down, lethargic and negative. Why bother with that? Identify the things and people that make you feel unhappy and eliminate them from your life. Nothing good can come from them.

Choose to be happy and positive. Take steps to insure a more joyful and positive life. Do happy things; see positive movies, read good books, be around positive people, and practice affirmations. Identify the things and people that bring you happy feelings and surround yourself with them. Cultivate your relationship with yourself and you will be successful.

Taking control of your life takes time and requires decisions. The rewards make the efforts worth it.

When to retire? – A study by Dr. Sing Lin.

Interesting Read

When to retire? – A study by Dr. Sing Lin.

This study is worth reading again and again.

It carries a weighty title: “Optimum Strategies for Creativity and Longevity”, and was the hard work of a Dr Sing Lin, a member of National Council of the Chinese Institute of Engineers , USA/Greater New York Chapter.

According to the academic, pension funds in many large American corporations (e.g., Boeing, Lockheed Martin, AT&T, Lucent Technologies, etc.) have in recent years been “over funded” because many retirees who work into their old age and retire after 65 tend to die within two years of retirement.

Many of these late retirees, he observes, do not live long enough to collect their pension money.

Dr Sing Lin says statistics gathered from several corporations indicated that the longer you work, the shorter your life will be.

If people retire at 50, their average life span is 86. If they stop work at 65, their average life span is only 66.8.

An important conclusion from his study is that for every year one works beyond the age of 55, one loses an average of two years of life.

The Boeing experience seems to confirm this: Employees retiring at 65 receive pension checks for only 18 months, on average, prior to death.

Similarly, at Lockheed, employees retiring at 65 receive pension checks for only 17 months, on average, before they die.

Dr David T. Chai, another academic, whom Dr Sing Lin quotes in his research, says the Bell Labs experience is similar to those of Boeing & Lockheed. Chai based this on his casual observation from newsletters on Bell Lab retirees.

Hardworking retirees apparently place too great a burden on their *aging* bodies and minds, such that they become stressed out, says Dr Sing Lin.

This leads to serious health problems which will force them to stop work.

With such long-term stress-induced health problems, they die within two years of their retirement.

On the other hand, people who retire at 55 tend to live long and well into their 80s and beyond.

Dr Sing Lin acknowledges that early retirees are probably wealthier or more able to plan and manage their health and career, and this is probably why they can afford to stop work & still live comfortably.

His observations also reveal that many early retirees do not idle their way into old age. They continue to do part-time work at a more leisurely pace, which reduces stress.

He concluded his research with this advice: Plan your career path and save enough so you can retire comfortably at the age of 55 or earlier to enjoy a long and happy retirement life into your 80s & beyond.

“If you are not able to get out of the pressure-cooker or the high-speed battleground at 55 and have to keep on working until the age of 65 or older, you will probably die within 18 months of retirement,” he writes.

“By working in the pressure cooker for 10 extra years beyond the age of 55, you give up, on average, at least 20 years of your life.”

PLEASE! Do share with parents & children.

Please read this carefully and get your son or daughter to read it too.
This post is about what happened in a typical middle-class household.
The son didn’t like living in his father’s house. This was because of his father’s constant ‘nagging’;
“You are leaving the room without switching off the fan”
“The TV is on in the room where there is no one. Switch it off!”
“Keep the pen in the stand; it is fallen down”

The son didn’t like his father nagging him for these minor things.
He had to tolerate these things till yesterday since he was with them in the same house.

But today, however, he had an invitation for a job interview.
“As soon as I get the job, I should leave this town. There won’t be any nagging from my father” were his thoughts.

As he was about to leave for the interview, the father advised:
“Answer the questions put to you without any hesitation. Even if you don’t know the answer, mention that confidently.” His gave him more money than he actually needed to attend the interview.

The son arrived at the interview centre.
He noticed that there were no security guards at the gate. Even though the door was open, the latch was protruding out probably hitting the people entering through the door. He put the latch back properly, closed the door and entered the office.

On both sides of the pathway he could see beautiful flower plants. The gardener had kept the water running in the hose-pipe and was not to be seen anywhere. The water was overflowing on the pathway. He lifted the hosepipe and placed it near one of the plants and went further.

There was no one in the reception area. However, there was a notice saying that the interview was on the first floor. He slowly climbed the stairs.

The light that was switched on last night was still burning at 10 am in the morning. He remembered his father’s admonition, “Why are you leaving the room without switching off the light?” and thought he could still hear that now. Even though he felt irritated by that thought, he sought the switch and switched off the light.

Upstairs in a large hall he could see many aspirants sitting waiting for their turn. He looked at the number of people and wondered if he had any chance of getting the job.

He entered the hall with some trepidation and stepped on the “Welcome” mat placed near the door. He noticed that the mat was upside down. He straightened out the mat with some irritation. Habits die hard.

He saw that in a few rows in the front there were many people waiting for their turn, whereas the back rows were empty, but a number of fans were running over those rows of seats.
He heard his father’s voice again, “Why are the fans running in the room where there is no one?” He switched off the fans that were not needed and sat at one of the empty chairs.
He could see many men entering the interview room and immediately leave from another door. There was thus no way anyone could guess what was being asked in the interview.

When it was his turn, He went and stood before the interviewer with some trepidation and concern.

The officer took the certificates from him and without looking at them asked, “When can you start work?”

He thought ,”is this a trick question being asked in the interview, or is this a signal that I have been offered the job?” He was confused.

“What are you thinking?” asked the boss. “We didn’t ask anyone any question here. By asking a few questions we won’t be able to assess the skills of anyone. So our test was to assess the attitude of the person. We kept certain tests based on the behaviour of the candidates and we observed everyone through CCTV. No one who came today did anything to set right the latch at the door, the hose pipe, the welcome mat, the uselessly running fans or lights. You were the only one who did that. That’s why we have decided to select you for the job”, said the boss.

He always used to get irritated at his father’s discipline and demonstrations. Now he realized that it is only the discipline that has got him his job. His irritation and anger at his father vanished completely.
He decided that he would bring his father too to his workplace and left for home happily.

Whatever our father tells us is only for our good aimed at giving us a bright future!

A rock doesn’t become a beautiful sculpture if it resists the pain of the chisel chipping it away.

For us to become a beautiful sculpture and a human being we need to accept admonitions that chisel out the bad habits and behaviour from ourselves. That is what our father does when he disciplines us.

The mother lifts the child up on her waist to feed her, to cuddle her, and to put her to sleep. But the father is not like that. He lifts the child up on his shoulders to make her see the world that he couldn’t see.
We can realize the pain the mother undergoes by listening to her; but the father’s pain can be realized only when others tell us about it.

Our father is our teacher when we are five years old; a terrible villain when we are about twenty, and a guidepost as long as he lives…

Mothers can go to her daughter’s or son’s home when she’s old; but the father doesn’t know how to do that…

There is no use in hurting our parents when they are alive and remembering about them when they have passed away. Treat them well always.
This is an example of mentorship.

PLEASE! Do share with parents & children.

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Be a Teacher ….Pass on to the teachers you know.👌

Be a Teacher ….Pass on to the teachers you know.👌

From A School Principal’s speech at a graduation……

He said “The Doctor wants his child to become a doctor…
the Engineer wants his child to become an engineer…
The Businessman wants his ward to become CEO…
BUT a teacher also wants his child to become one of them, as well..!!
Nobody wants to become a teacher BY CHOICE”…
Very sad but that’s the truth..!!

The dinner guests were sitting around the table discussing life.

One man, a CEO, decided to explain the problem with education. He
argued, “What’s a kid going to learn from someone who decided his best
option in life was to become only a teacher?”

To stress his point he said to another guest;
“You’re a teacher, Mrs Sharma. Be honest. What do you make?”

Teacher Mrs Sharma, who had a reputation for honesty and frankness
replied, “You want to know what I make?
(She paused for a second, then began…)

“Well, I make kids work harder than they ever thought they could.

I make a C+ feel like the Congressional Medal of Honor winner.

I make kids sit through 40 minutes of class time when their parents
can’t make them sit for 5 min. without an I- Pod, Game Cube or movie
rental.

You want to know what I make?

(She paused again and looked at each and every person at the table)

I make kids wonder.

I make them question.

I make them apologize and mean it.

I make them have respect and take responsibility for their actions.

I teach them how to write and then I make them write.
Keyboarding isn’t everything.

I make them read, read, read.

I make them show all their work in math.

They use their God given brain, not the man-made calculator.

I make my students from other countries learn everything they need to
know about India while preserving their unique cultural identity.

I make my classroom a place where all my students feel safe.

Finally, I make them understand that if they use the gifts they were
given, work hard, and follow their hearts, they can succeed in life.

(Mrs Sharma paused one last time and then continued.)

Then, when people try to judge me by what I make, with me knowing
money isn’t everything, I can hold my head up high and pay no
attention because they are ignorant. You want to know what I make?

I MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN ALL YOUR LIVES, EDUCATING KIDS AND PREPARING
THEM TO BECOME CEO’s, AND DOCTORS AND ENGINEERS…

What do you make Mr. CEO? Only money?

His jaw dropped; he went silent.

THIS IS WORTH SENDING TO EVERY teacher you know .

Actually very worth sending again & again – especially to those from
other professions who think they are above teachers

BE A TEACHER